parenting

First of all, let me just say that I am frustrated. Incredibly frustrated. I think impotency - or, perceived impotency, let me say - is quite possibly one of the most significant of the human emotions - in terms of feelings that prompt people to act, or to act in certain ways.

I feel almost like I'm thirteen again, reliving part of the nightmare that was my young adulthood, albeit through a muffling - and much more comfortable - membrane of distance and time.

So I am consulting WebMD's parenting section, in order to perhaps come up with some ideas of some ray of hope for this situation, and the parenting section stops at "teens: 15-18".

Are you not a parent anymore when your kid is an adult? What if your kid never learned to be an adult? What if your kid is still totally dependent on you and has no idea how to change that because you keep her stagnant? Because you have systematically and consistently removed all control and confidence she has in her own life by taking over for her and telling her repeatedly she can't do things - now we're up to most things - because she'll mess up, fail, and she has already failed at so many things she should just let them take over. News: have been doing that trying to prove yourself thing since I was first told I needed to, in order to gain some kind of freedom at some point, I don't remember when, maybe when I was thirteen. News Update: Nothing has changed, nothing will change, nothing can change, because you are keeping this child, this child WebMD doesn't even tell you how to parent anymore because they think you're not a parent once your child ages out of online-advising age - clearly - you are keeping this child stagnant.

And she probably wouldn't mind so much, since she's been doing this her whole life, but she is watching her younger brother fly through every wall that you have ever put in front of her and realized the walls are only there for her.

Most people I know have everything given to them by their parents. School money, cars, tuition, allowance, rent. These people are independent except in the financial sense. My parents are keeping me in a straight jacket made of privilege and unforgoable opportunities. In my right hand, I am unspeakably fortunate. In my left hand, I am nailed to a wall.